I say NO lots of times to my children. Saying NO is valuable and important in raising them
But each No is with purpose, decision, and thought.
It doesn’t have to be all negative as there are multiple ways to say ”No” and in some instances you might not even need to say it directly. I’ve also observed that important conversations ensue when we say NO!
Why do I say No? Just like for most people it is usually to reaffirm my disapproval of a course of action or request from my children.
The biggest lesson I try to communicate is that Being told No and understanding how to react to it, prepares them for life in the real world.
Please see a few points we’ve learned / are learning together.
1. God tells us No too and he’s our father. He does that because he loves us and wants the best for us.
2. Saying No helps cultivate a level of selflessness. When we tell them yes for every single thing, we teach them to focus on themselves primarily..
3. Also, hearing NO from others shapes their attitude to friendship and compromise; things cannot go their way all the time and life doesn’t revolve around them.
4. No Teaches them to be thankful for the things they have , because thankfulness engenders joy and contentment. They focus on and appreciate the present, whilst remaining expectant for future desires.
5. Hearing and respecting the word No reinforces the notion of authority.God placed mum and Dad as authorities over them for guidance and direction.
6. It also helps them cultivate patience as they learn what it means to wait……. ’Wait for mum to finish what she is doing’, ’wait for the right time to play’, ’wait for the group in school’, ’No it’s not TV time go finish your homework’, ’No you can’t have that now’ and sometimes waiting means it won’t happen.
7. ’No’ means ’No’ so parents can set boundaries.
Do you have a great tip for practising NO?
Are you a No Mum? Sometimes I hear my children discussing and saying , Mummy is going to say No , that is to show you how much I say NO, but I’m learning to approach it differently…..
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