In my other post, I wrote about the importance of saying ”NO” and how I am currently trying to reduce the use or say it other ways. Luckily there are other ways of saying” NO” to your child without using the word. Not only is it better for you and your child to stop hearing it all the time, but these ways help our children feel more understood, validate and will make them feel like they have other options than just been told ”NO” all the time.
- COMPROMISE: you can compromise with them and still let them get what they want, but at an appropriate time, it helps them calm down and realize that they can still have their way but not right now.
2. GIVE REASONS: Helping them understand the reason why they can’t have or do something will help them know you say ”NO” for a reason, not just because you are a parent and can say NO when you want. Eg I know you want more candy but too much of it makes your tummy hurt.
3. DISTRACTION: I am very good at this one, offering a distraction is a great trick in changing your child’s focus from a situation where they want something. Offering something else to excite them changes their anger about not getting what they want to the excitement of doing something new.
4 . OFFER OTHER OPTIONS: Most times when they want something, it may not be that particular thing they want, most times they don’t even know what they want they may just be tired, sleepy, or bored. instead of saying ”No” you can offer them other things you want them to have and most times they go with your offer. Like a banana or apple instead of candy they have had all day.
5. CHOICES: This is an incredible way to make them feel in charge which in turn makes it their decision to make/do and not yours. For example, instead of saying NO, you can’t throw your ball inside the house, you can say you either go outside or you play with something else. it’s now their choice.
Drop a comment below on how you say “NO” without using the word “NO”.
FACT: The average child hears “NO” 432″ times a day, which can lead to negative behavior. If your child hears “NO” repeatedly learning new things or being open to new experiences can prove more difficult.
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